Why ya gotta be a bitch?

Be nice, people. It really goes a long way.

We had folks over to the house recently and some of the conversations I had with one lady in particular has been making me crazy. Seriously, some people...

As background, I am doing a 'Biggest Loser' competition with Brad's brother's girlfriend, Brittany. And, although I have a long way to go still, I am working really hard and have managed to lose 10 lbs in the last month. My body so doesn't cooperate the way it used to and I am totally like the cartoon commercial chick who eats nothing for weeks on end and loses 1 lb, but I am really really trying. You would think people would be supportive. Insert "Sally".

"Sally" is a middle aged family friend. She is thin and always has been. Wonderful for her. And maybe she really just doesn't think, but these were a couple conversations we had. Note that she knows fully well that:
1) Brittany and I have been doing this competition for a month
2) I am trying hard to lose weight
3) I have PCOS and it makes this process hard (no pity requested, just sayin)
4) I have already lost 10 lbs.

Anyway, this was my day:

Conversation 1:

Sally: Your friend Bramble looks really great. Has she lost weight?
Me: Yes, she has. She does look awesome.
Sally: Oh to be young. Losing weight is always so easy when you are young.

Bramble is my age. No mention of me or anything having to do with the weight I lost. Between the lines of this conversation is 'you do not look great', 'you do not look like you have lost weight' and 'losing weight at your age should be easy'. I swear to God, it was either completely intentional or she is just crazy clueless.

Conversation 2:
Me: (being nice) I really like those pants (I didn't, I was just being nice.)
Sally: Oh, thanks. I got them at the Gap. They are a size 8. I normally wear a size 6, but with the fit of these I thought 8 was probably better. They are definitely too big though.

OK, great.
A) I didn't ask.
B) I don't begrudge anyone their size. But c'mon!
Frankly, it's not like I'm a gazillion miles away from those sizes, but bringing up her obviously smaller-than-me size just seemed so intentional and pointed. It was almost like a 'nanny nanny poo poo, I'm a size 6 and you are not'. I mean seriously.  It's like 6th grade mean girl shit.

Conversation 3:
Sally: I saw Brittany last weekend and she looks really good. I could definitely tell she has lost weight.

The end. That was it. Nothing further. Not even a thought to add me to that statement... Isn't it just chick code to compliment someone if you have heard they lost weight? Even if someone doesn't look insanely different, if you know they lost 10 lbs, don't you say something!? Well, I do. And that's how I was brought up. Of course, I am nice. "Sally" on the other hand...

At the end of the day, I feel good, so fuck it. I have lost weight. I will continue to lose weight and frankly I don't need compliments to keep me going. With that said, a kind word really does go a long way.

Be kind whenever possible. 
It is always possible.
~Tenzin Gyatso, 14th Dalai Lama

Bite me, "Sally".